BecauseGirls Invisible Collection: The Strapless Bra
Calling all women of all ages! This strapless bra is the next underrated must-have wardrobe item! Don’t interpret my persuasiveness for undermining women confidence. Interpret my confidence in our next product as a tip to the women who struggle with fashion-forward outfit envy! I’m talking about backless tops and dresses. I’m talking about strapless tops and dresses when our girls need just a little help! Yes, I am talking about our boobies.
Whether you have some or not, this sticky bra can really come in handy. You might be asking yourself, “C’mon, is it really that sticky?” … YAS MAMI it is!!! As soon as you know how to stick it specific to your mamas, you’ll be reppin’ some serious #slaygirl secrets behind those to-die-for outfits.
I’ll be specific that this bra isn’t for everyday wear. Let me tell you, I don’t want something stuck to my tits all day every day! This bra is for your Saturday nights with the ladies, this is for your weddings this season, this is for that hot date that you’ve been thinking about an outfit since last week. This is your must-have fashion piece for those moments where you need a solution to flaunt your beautiful boobies.
Another plus to this no-brainer wardrobe fix is that these are so affordable! You thought your happy hour with the girls was a little steep? Slow down on the cocktails and give these sticky bras a shot! We have two colors, a tan bra and black bra, will can you much longer than a gin martini. Your girls will thank you (wink wink)
It’s official – holiday season is here and we’ve done the research for you to find the cutest rose gold gifts for your mom, cousin, sister, daughter-in-law and any female in the family. We love the trend even more because rose gold can sometimes be classified as pink, too! Get ready to add chic and class into their repertoire!
What’s even better than being on time? Having nice hot coffee right by their side. The Corkcicle Tumbler, Gloss Rose Quartz keeps beverages hot or cold. You can let them know Starbucks gives a discount on coffee if they use a reusable cup!
Did note-taking just become my best friend? Rose Gold Diamond Penscan give class a little sass, or provide a motivational vision to encourage putting those ideas to work! Sophisticated can still be sparkly, don’t you think!
These ideas are flowing nicely – partner them up with the Goal-Setter Pink Gold Notebook to house all their money-making ideas for the million-dollar questions. Planning in style is good luck for helping make those success dreams come true!
Watch how sly I am by sneaking in this necessary Wine Decanter. Only does the wine really turn it pink! That might be a reach, but let me promise you, this is the easiest kitchen item to have to come across as fancy. Cheers to that.
What makes a girls wine night even better? Being able to wear their chic, Faux Fur Fluffy Pink Sliders! These are extra special because they can still show off their new pedicure. Just because it’s winter doesn’t mean we don’t still go to the salon.
Here you go sister! You didn’t think an Apple Watch could be classy? Think again! With this Apple Watch Band, it couldn’t be classier. Rose gold and zirconia stone weave make it comfortable and oh-so cute for any occasion.
Never forget the saying, “Look good, Feel good” – just like how every girl should feel good working out. Give your female a boost in her gym wardrobe and add style with rose gold Wireless Headphones. Not a gym-goer? These have a built-in mic for women on-the-go.
Calling all beauty queens and wanna-be mermaids – Rose Gold Mermaid Brushes are the essential accent to a make-up vanity. Believe it or not, I have these brushes myself and they’re soft, easy to clean, and SUPER cute!
OK, so these are not rose gold. They were just too good to not add to this collection. The Gold Crystal Candle Holders illuminate the candlelight and makes any room just a bit more elegant. They’re the perfect touch of class.
Make your cousin a princess for the day or switch up your sisters “matte faux taupe latte macchiato” basic betch shade with a rose gold Sparkle Nail Polish. This is serious glitter polish guaranteed to sparkle up any gloomy winter day.
Even boss babes still need to sleep! Remind your too-busy family female to take a chill pill and relax with some hot tea in her Pink Eyelashes Coffee Mug. Yes, it can still hold coffee – but these cute eyelashes make a nap sound pretty good!
Help her decorate with modern, geometric rose gold Hanging Succulent Pots. The succulents don’t come with the holders, so you can choose any plant to put in there. However, succulents are a hot trend right now and they’re supposed to be easy to keep alive!
Just when you thought it couldn’t get any better – Rose Gold Silverware. Dinner never tasted SO good before introducing rose gold silverware! Their kitchen will start to be even classier than yours!
To wrap up this rose gold gift list, pun intended, spice up her interior decor with the Luxury Black Marble Clock. Of course with rose gold accents, a clock is a timeless piece for adding luxury style to their home or office.
Remember that gift giving isn’t always about a holiday or having to make a good impression – gift giving is supposed to show your love and care for one another and the gratitude we have for what we do for each other out of love. During this holiday season, I hope you spend time with those you love and share kindness with everyone who comes your way. It’s the least we can do.
Xoxo – Slay Girl
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You might think life lessons from the ocean are a surfer’s excuse to the beach-bum lifestyle, when really the ocean could be wiser than you think. A body of water that is as old as time has made many impressions on human life. Get deep in this wave and see if you can feel the motion of the ocean. These 10 life lessons could be your next excuse to take that beach vacay get-away and learn how to surf:
Be the Observer – To catch the big waves you need to get past the break, you watch for patterns in the waves and look for opportunities of the right time to go to conserve your energy rather than struggle in the break. This relates to life by how it’s important to listen and watch rather than act so your energy isn’t wasted on petty waves in your way. Using observance and introspection to analyze the situation can help make beneficial changes.
It’s Tough Getting Started – Learning anything new takes time, effort, and some real will-power to get comfortable with the new skill. Waking up early to catch the good waves, forcing on a soaking wetsuit, and getting pummeled by some waves as your alarm clock isn’t always the ideal morning time ritual. Apply the struggle to learning other new things, don’t let those obstacles stand in your way to your goal. You’ll miss the best rides if you stay on the beach.
Let Go of Control & Go With the Flow – The ocean rules the ocean and you can’t do anything about it. By accepting the flow and letting go the idea that you can control everything will help you apply this to other areas of your life. Sometimes the energy it takes to try and control an outcome is not worth the effort. Just float.
Reserve Your Energy & Wait for the Right Wave – Waves can be deceiving just like a lot of opportunities. Sometimes it looks like the perfect wave and you mad-hustle only for the wave to roll beneath and pass you by. If you try and catch every wave – that’s called burn out. Have patience and wait for the wave that feels good to you.
You Have to Lean Over the Edge – When you catch a wave, you have to lean over the top edge of the wave. The wave won’t do all the work for you, you have to work the wave. The same goes for your ambition towards your goals. You can’t expect someone else to do the work for you, otherwise you’ll just be waiting out in that ocean.
Get Back Up When You Fall – This is so true and applies in so many ways. You will fall…a lot. Don’t get down on yourself when this happens and expect it to happen. Then, you can learn from those falls and work to make a change in order to try and fix it.
You Can’t Always Play it Safe – There are risks playing with the ocean. Just like everyday is a risk, trying new things are a risk, and getting out of our comfort zone can feel like a risk. You must take risks in order to reach higher rewards. Don’t be afraid to go for your dreams or an opportunity that seems scary. Normally those are what turn out the best.
There Are Sharks Out There – There are sharks in the ocean just like there are wolves on Wall Street. You’re probably safer in the ocean at this point. As long as you’re aware of your surroundings, you can’t let sharks stop you from pursuing your dream.
Ground Yourself and Just Hold On – Sometimes you do get caught up in a wave and have no choice but grip as hard as you can into the ocean floor and let the wave crash over you. Hold on tight when things get rough and they will soon pass.
Fully Commit to the Wave – You won’t catch the wave if you don’t decide to fully commit to the wave. If you don’t commit your heart, body, mind and soul into chasing your dreams, then you’ll never get a chance to catch them.
Are you still in college? Keep reading. Did you not go to college and thinking about it? Still keep reading…
There is a huge misconception within modern society that not enough people are talking about: the modern education path is outdated.
Let me set some creditability real quick – I’m a Chemical Engineering graduate from an ABET accredited university (Accreditation Board for Engineering and Technology) and just past my two years with my employer in the semiconductor industry. I’ve done my fair share of following modern educational paths to reach the “promised” destination: a job.
There might be some miscommunication by universities that if you follow their educational path that you’ll find happiness and wealth, when really, a job is a job and you could actually just be hardly getting by making it paycheck to paycheck. A mediocre job doesn’t promise you the lifestyle you might imagine. But unfortunately, most college degrees will put you into the mediocre genre.
All that studying, or not studying, will spit you out into a competitive and relentless world. Wake up, honey. You think you can get away with cheating off your partner in class and taking easy classes to get easy credits – you’ll really start to feel the reality of that out of college – it’s called a paycheck. Those big corporations won’t have time for the cheaters or the slackers.
So what’s a mediocre girl to do? First off – you’re not mediocre. You’re actually the most amazing female that has ever walked this Earth. Second, you better get to know yourself and what you’re willing to work for. That’s really the secret right there. In college, they preach to us that these classes are what you need to get a degree and that is what will bring you happiness. I’m calling that BS. A degree is a helping hand into a job. That job, whether it is well paying or not, is not your path to happiness – it’s the path to working for someone else. However, if you’re willing to not go the safe route or willing to go for a degree that isn’t the promised fat paycheck, you are bound to love more of what you do and thus gain more satisfaction with what or who you’re working for.
For example: If you are working towards a degree and you hate your classes, you better get use to it because those are your career options. Unless you are a mastermind at manipulating your resume to essentially fake your skills, you’re stuck with your degree hun. Now, if you love your classes, go you bae, you’re well on your way to being excited about your career after college. If you’re like me however, and are promised by choosing a particular degree that you’re promised a higher pay-out, be warned that you’ll have to learn to love it.
Disclaimer: Yes, you can work your way to change your career towards other avenues… but damn is it hard and damn is it long. You thought college was long? Guess what, people spend YEARS at companies until they get that big raise or get a big level change. Although I’ve been lucky enough to be placed in a company just at the right time to expedite my role a little faster than most, it took more than just 40 hours a week.
If you’re in college, don’t waste your time in bullshit courses. Take classes that actually interest you. Go for a degree that actually interests you. Don’t listen to your mom, your dad, your aunt – listen to yourself. Don’t waste your college tuition on courses that you hate. As long as that end goal is truly what you want, it’s easier to change within the modern education system rather than out of it.
If you’re a drop-out or never went to college, like I said above, a degree is a helping hand. But that doesn’t mean you are totally prohibited from being successful. The same values stand true. Figure out what you want to work for. Money will come later.
No matter your circumstance, your work ethic will rise above anyone who has less. Always strive for more and always strive for being a better you. In the end, there’s only one way to go: UP
Share your success story in the comments whether it be your experience after college or nothing to do with college, how the modern education “path” may have suited you or not, and how you’re making it in the real world.
Motivational people are easy to find these days: social media, podcasts, audio books, YouTube, and almost anywhere on the internet. Motivational speeches, discussions, visuals, and content of that nature can have some powerful meanings behind them if you let them.
Recently on my drive out to San Diego, I came across an interview on SoundCloud of Gary Vaynerchuk and Cy Wakeman. It’s about an hour long and I had some time to kill. I was so surprised how much I loved this interview. When I was just looking for some inspiration while driving through the desert wastelands, I came across a conversation between two very intuitive and motivational individuals. I’d highly suggest you take a listen for yourself, but I’ll share with you the highlights I noted during their conversation of leadership and reducing drama in the workplace:
the 5 aspects of being an effective leader
You gotta have some thick skin, girl. Lessons will eventually teach you that having resilience in the face of adversity will be one of your more advantageous strengths. One step to gaining that resilience is knowing your own truth, and that is learning how to block out all the voices of the haters. You get decide whether you deserve your own circumstance. Drama is wasted mindful energy. Focus on results because what gets you success is usually what makes you happy.
Different people could have a different idea of “what” to be accountable to, whether that be their boss, their mom, their own self; but what you must actually be accountable to is the truth. When people aren’t accountable to the truth, this is where their ego steps in. Ego is different than confidence. Ego is the filter that distorts reality and what creates judgement. Ego is the “creator” of all stories. You could be walking down the hall way and don’t smile at Jill, and she all of a sudden thinks you didn’t smile at her because she didn’t come to your employee lunch and thinks your mad. When really, you didn’t smile because you were on the phone with Joe closing a deal. Ego is different than confidence, where confidence is the “writer” of all stories. Confidence is positive when used correctly.
I think trutality is a made up word, however, this ties into knowing the truth. You gain leverage as a leader by the historical correctiveness of your actions. This eliminates the situation of someone else using your actions against you. Doing the right thing is doing the right thing, and no one can dispute that. As a leader, you manage the energy of mindsets, not people. Create that leverage for your own interest. If you can practice trutality, you then are being accountable to the truth, and happiness is linked to accountability.
This is what I do when listening to motivational people. Once you get insight to new ideas or an opportunity to listen to examples of better ways of thinking, acting, working, spending time – then you can look inside yourself and see where you can make improvements. Leader’s have to work at a higher level of thought processes in order to help guide those under them.
This is the last trait in the conversation, which is sometimes the most difficult. Sometimes we have a hard time being honest with ourself to understand why we are not meeting our goals – like making excuses not to go to the gym, not speaking up in meetings with your boss, going out with friends and then get upset when you have a hangover in the morning – we might have an easy time deciding our flaws, but we’re never honest enough with ourselves to fix them. For example, venting is the “out” of self-reflection. It’s ego’s way of avoiding self-reflection and self-awareness. Self-reflection is how you reach self-awareness. Who would you be without your story? Without your drama story, who would you be? It’s definitely not something you decide overnight, but you can work to think in a reflective way to learn your habits, values, and become aware of how you are or are not using those to grow your own self.
The world is abundant. We have more information at our fingertips than ANY other generation. Become addicted to motivational people and learn your way to success. Hopefully I’ve provided a little step for you during your personal growth to truly believing you can be what you want to be.
Being dumb isn’t cute. From someone who has spent countless hours with her head in books, hear this: believe it or not, your blog author here is an Engineer Lead in the semiconductor industry. That’s right – science nerd, study freak, lots of long nights in the library on the bottom floor – you name it. However, if you were to meet me for the first time, I bet that you’d never guess. Why? The personas and stereotypes of women in this field are so overrated. I have a hard time understanding why some people view engineering as this unfamiliar, mysterious way of life. Sure, school and classes are tough, but that’s why we are built to learn. You don’t have to be socially awkward to be able to understand science and math, nor to even just have the curiosity to learn something new.
What I’m trying to say is: you can still be beautiful, love makeup, love shopping, going out with the girls, workout, be all around sexy, and still have brains. Knowledge is not only useful, but it is powerful. You are growing by strides when you advance your knowledge. You are challenging yourself and your potential when you put yourself to the test of learning something new. What happens when you come out the other side? Experiences have been made, new ideas can come to fruition, and you are somewhere new that you haven’t been before.
Then what? You’ve already beaten one challenge, so what next? I will never forget the feeling when I graduated college. After 5 years (yes, it took five) I had finally passed all my classes to be deemed a Chemical Engineer. The weight off my shoulders was literally something I had never felt before. I had achieved something that I bled, sweat, and cried for (literally). I had grown beyond what people thought I couldn’t do and proved all of them wrong. If you have experienced this, you know what I am talking about. If you haven’t, I highly recommend you find something you want to achieve and do it. Beat it. Get to where you want to be. No matter how long it takes, as long as you work hard, stay consistent, and keep the vision – you WILL get there.
That may have been one of the greatest lessons from that experience. I want you to really examine yourself: think of your morals, gut-feelings, what makes you happy, how do you feel about where you’re exerting the most energy in your life, what is helping you grow (even if you might not like it), are you asking for help, maybe reach out to a close friend and hear yourself talk about your goals.
Light your fire and let it burn
We all have energy inside of us to get what we want. Find it and run with it, girl. I want you to feel that feeling, and I myself will keep moving towards reaching that feeling again too. Our time is so short, but our potential is SOhuge.
Get ready to add these to your Sunday brunch with the girls: Mermosas
Only the sweetest, sexiest, ocean-loving mermaid could come up with something like these mer-tail drinks to sip on. (cough cough, me!) They’ll remind you of the waves, sunshine, and never-ending beach days where all you have to worry about is when your glass is empty.
After a night of blending, mixing, sipping, and pouring – your mer-friend decided these were the best! Even though the sweetness can be a little much, they are SO fun. Besides, all things mermaid have to be sparkly and include bubbles. If you’re lucky, maybe you’ll just start to grow some scales after sipping on a few of these:
1.The Lucky One
Green like seaweed and lucky just like the sailor who finds such a siren as you! Blend up some liquor and ice and you have a wavy sea right inside your glass:
Blend ice, vodka, and Midori (don’t blend the ice too smooth)
The mermosa of ALL mermosas! I couldn’t wait until the end to show you. If your girlfriend needs a pick-me-up, pick up these magical beverages and show her just how sparkles can really light up her world:
Don’t let the Flirty One fool you. Sparkles are great and all, but this mermosa might even please your mother. This champagne is colored with blueberries! It is SO pretty in a glass. We had to spice it up a bit, but this champagne alone is worth trying out:
Don’t be salty. Unless the ocean is the cause, you don’t need that negativity in your life! Being “salty” in modern day is when something has happened to upset you in a way where your attitude turns bad. Like when your co-worker hosts a meeting without you when you are the subject matter expert (eh hem… they missed out, not you). Or like when your boss says he’ll host lunch and backs out because of meetings and leaves you with the bill (what a bad role model). How about when you’re out for brunch and your waiter takes 20 minutes to come refill your mimosa? (he obviously doesn’t deserve the 20% tip you were going to leave…)
Do you see a trend yet? Out of all of those salty situations you may have encountered, it all comes full circle. You don’t have to be salty just because something inconvenient may have happened to you. In the end, you are not losing if you don’t let it. In all of those examples, you ended up winning. The cause of the “saltiness” were the ones who actually lost. Your co-worker will hear it from your boss that you weren’t involved and the team could use some better leadership (eh hem… you). Your boss made a poor first impression to not only you, but the other co-workers he was supposed to lead (you just one-uped your other co-workers). Lastly, the waiter totally lost by not treating his guests as they should and will see that in his tip-out.
POINT BEING: “Salty” is an attitude. It’s an attitude that is negative which means you let something bring you down. Don’t be salty. You can make your day so much easier on yourself if you can look at a situation and see that you are winning when maybe others see it that you lost. Mermaids don’t let opinions of shrimp affect them. Next time you feel salty, look at the situation from a different angle to see how you can come out on top.
The only thing salty in our most recent photo shoot was mermaid hair, seashells in the pool, and salt rimmed rose glasses. Our BecauseMermaids Collection is out! Check out our Behind-The-Scenes quick-vid below of our photo shoot. Keep it real my girls, slay the day, and don’t be salty. #BecauseMermaids
If you haven’t noticed in this blog all my Beyonce references, you will now. It’s been decided that this betch is beyond a role model but a major influencer for a lot of people, most importantly – me! Think for just a minute about yourself – do you have someone you look up to? Whether that’s a fitness model, makeup youtuber, or maybe even a Kardashian (have no shame) – you can really start to grow a vision for yourself with a role model if you don’t know where to start.
Today I want to highlight a specific song of Beyonce’s. You guessed it – Flawless. This song is different than most of her work where there is about a 30 second break in the lyrics where she features whom I thought was an excerpt from a Rosa Parks speech or something… shows how much I know. The speaker is actually a Nigerian writer, Chimamanda, who gives what I think is a very strong, important message. After listening to the song over and over, her words stuck out to me more than ever.
The take-away from her excerpt seemed to be the concept that girls are raised based on competition of their looks – not their qualities, accomplishments, or life goals. Thus, girls turn against each other. Because when faced with a competition of looks, that is a war you will not win. We cannot control who has blonde hair, black skin, green eyes, petite or curvy body types; we are who we are. What defines us genuinely IS our qualities, accomplishments, and life goals – and these are things we CANcontrol.
Since so much history has already been written of girls competing for attention by their looks, we need to understand the benefits of ridding that competition and begin supporting one another instead. We are collaborators, not competitors. Most importantly, we are not competitors for our looks. If anything, we should be competitors with our success and hard work. Using positive competition versus negative competition can encourage us to go beyond our limitations. As well as, when you bring strong minds together and consider each other as a team, that is when magic really happens. #SLAYtribe
Once again, BecauseGirls will bring up the trendy “slay” movement. However, I’d like to get personal with you and share some helpful information for those of us who really are trying to grow, evolve, and become better women. I had the privilege to be a part of a webinar; a free lecture for communication of women leadership. Here is a summary of what was shared and what I felt were important take-aways, enjoy:
We love there has been a movement of this “new” term: Slaying; i.e. “to slay”, and “slaying it” — It’s really catching on and is referring to women who are “fantastic & well put-together…” — But “slay” is actually an old word referring “slay” in definition as, a fight, a war, or kill your enemy. There is a famous Chinese General, Sun Tzu, whose quotes have been passed down over hundreds of generations:
He says, “The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting”
This is learning how to fight strategically to effortlessly win:
Learn to pick your battles…
Lesson 1 – Know my enemy and know thyself
If you know your enemy and you know yourself, you need not fear the results of a hundred battles”
Know yourself, know your enemy. If you know everything you want, you can win every time. You learn, and/or you know the enemy you will face. The definition of the word KNOW is: to be aware through observation, inquiry, or information. This is to “know” yourself, your core values, know your enemies… What is your enemy?
Lesson 2 – Win first and then go to war
Victorious warriors win first and then go to war, while defeated warriors go to war and then seek to win”
Every day you have to win, before you can win. Before the enemy even comes you are ready, prepared, and focused. You have got to win everyday. Know that you know, that you know. Know yourself. Know every morning how you will win today. Cool, calm, collected (CCC); you will win every time.
Lesson 3 – Understand that timing is everything
He who knows when he can fight and when he cannot, will be victorious”
Know when you are ready to fight. Not when you’re tired, not when you’re angry, not when you’re not sure. If you have thought about that battle 3 times in a row – it’s time to act. Time to do it, make a change, confront what’s in front of you. First, you must win the war before you have to battle. Do this by knowing what you want the resolution of the battle to BE.
Next, you get to decide the right time. It’s your decision and time to take control: your destiny. Confront the battle with the facts. Honesty. Focus on the real issue – the main problem you must solve, or the goal you want to meet.
Lesson 4 – Always leave a way of escape
To surround an enemy, you must leave a way of escape”
Knowing when to say enough is enough. You put yourself in a position that if something fails, you can move forward. You position yourself, strategically, so that when all your effort has been put forth, you have tried your hardest to beat the battle, you have a way out. You can forge ahead.
When will you be satisfied?
If you have to say enough is enough. If something doesn’t go the right way, this doesn’t mean that you won’t win the war. This means that you have tried your hardest, you have pushed the limits. You have decided that your energy in this situation is not worth it anymore and you can put forth your energy into something bigger, better, than where you are now. Take a leap of faith, be prepared to fail, be prepared to get up and try again. Be prepared to keep on trying will all your might to prove that you can beat the obstacle in front of you.
YOU HAVE THE POWER. YOU CAN SLAY WHAT COMES YOUR WAY.
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