Once again, BecauseGirls will bring up the trendy “slay” movement. However, I’d like to get personal with you and share some helpful information for those of us who really are trying to grow, evolve, and become better women. I had the privilege to be a part of a webinar; a free lecture for communication of women leadership. Here is a summary of what was shared and what I felt were important take-aways, enjoy:

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Summary and Notes of “Women Who Slay” by Jennifer Keitt

We love there has been a movement of this “new” term: Slaying; i.e. “to slay”, and “slaying it” — It’s really catching on and is referring to women who are “fantastic & well put-together…” — But “slay” is actually an old word referring “slay” in definition as, a fight, a war, or kill your enemy. There is a famous Chinese General, Sun Tzu, whose quotes have been passed down over hundreds of generations:

He says, “The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting”

This is learning how to fight strategically to effortlessly win:

Learn to pick your battles…

Lesson 1 – Know my enemy and know thyself

If you know your enemy and you know yourself, you need not fear the results of a hundred battles”

Know yourself, know your enemy. If you know everything you want, you can win every time. You learn, and/or you know the enemy you will face. The definition of the word KNOW is: to be aware through observation, inquiry, or information. This is to “know” yourself, your core values, know your enemies… What is your enemy?

Lesson 2 – Win first and then go to war

Victorious warriors win first and then go to war, while defeated warriors go to war and then seek to win”

Every day you have to win, before you can win. Before the enemy even comes you are ready, prepared, and focused. You have got to win everyday. Know that you know, that you know. Know yourself. Know every morning how you will win today. Cool, calm, collected (CCC); you will win every time.

Lesson 3 – Understand that timing is everything

He who knows when he can fight and when he cannot, will be victorious”

Know when you are ready to fight. Not when you’re tired, not when you’re angry, not when you’re not sure. If you have thought about that battle 3 times in a row – it’s time to act. Time to do it, make a change, confront what’s in front of you. First, you must win the war before you have to battle. Do this by knowing what you want the resolution of the battle to BE.

Next, you get to decide the right time. It’s your decision and time to take control: your destiny. Confront the battle with the facts. Honesty. Focus on the real issue – the main problem you must solve, or the goal you want to meet.

Lesson 4 – Always leave a way of escape

To surround an enemy, you must leave a way of escape”

Knowing when to say enough is enough. You put yourself in a position that if something fails, you can move forward. You position yourself, strategically, so that when all  your effort has been put forth, you have tried your hardest to beat the battle, you have a way out. You can forge ahead.

When will you be satisfied?

If you have to say enough is enough. If something doesn’t go the right way, this doesn’t mean that you won’t win the war. This means that you have tried your hardest, you have pushed the limits. You have decided that your energy in this situation is not worth it anymore and you can put forth your energy into something bigger, better, than where you are now. Take a leap of faith, be prepared to fail, be prepared to get up and try again. Be prepared to keep on trying will all your might to prove that you can beat the obstacle in front of you.


Believe this everyday, and you will go somewhere…